Perserverance

Perseverance - verb meaning to continue in a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no indication of success.

This is what we teach our kids every day, every time the light goes out of there faces cause other kids can do things they cant. When they feel like there hearts are going break because they cant join in for whatever there problem is. Perseverance is what we need to teach them every day, because it will not get better, it may get a bit easier in some departments and then worsen in others as they get older and life changes. 


We were at friends one night and they all were doing cart wheels, i didn't even notice it but Faith had quietly disappeared and had gone to sit in the room. I looked around for her and asked where she was and they didn't know, so i went inside and found her sitting in the room crying and upset. I asked her what was wrong. She said 'Mom i cant do it, I said do what ? The cartwheels Mom i cant do it and they all can. I said i know you can't sweetheart t and it is ok you just persevere with it and you eventually get there even if it is not perfect and if they are your friends, be honest with them and tell them and let them help you. That's what friends are suppose to do. She said Mom it's hard . I said i know it is hard but if you don't try , if you don't persevere you will never know if you can or cant , and even if you don't do it one hundred percent it is ok too. We hugged and she went out and i stood there and she told them feeling a bit low that she couldn't do cart wheels and they were ok with it, they showed her, held her legs and made her feel part of it all, not disconnected. I am thankful for that.

Such a simple, easy,thing to do, yet for Faith her whole world was crumbling because of this one thing. Perseverance i tell her when she has tests, when her anxiety kicks in and she feels nervous, when we have a bike sitting that we not using because she just cant turn the peddles around and ride a bike yet and she turning 11 yrs old.  When she cant even pick up Leo our new kitten cause of her fears. I think how deflated our kids must feel having to always have to try something over and over and over, never just been able to get something right the first time, but then i think to myself that as they grow up and pass certain hurdles, maybe achieve some goals they will be stronger and more confident individuals and appreciate everything in life more because it took them longer to get there. 

It is not the destination that counts so much but the journey getting there, because we would of learned so much along the way. I see it every day with Faith she is a thankful child. She will tell me twenty times thank you for something and as young as she is she has learned to be thankful for so much, so many little stuff even the Kitten Leo we got her that she cant even pick up yet she is thankful for and says we the best Mom and dad in the world.

Perseverance to continue in a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no indication of success.

 I am in awe of my daughter Faith, that although she knows most of the time she may fail she keeps on persevering.